Why did I go back to blog after a year on Xanga? I don't know. Aside from the fact I haven't blogged in either for over a year, this one just suits me more, I guess. I went to Xanga because everyone else was on it (of course) and it was easier for people to comment. But now everyone is on Facebook and to me that new fangled contraption is even less personal than Xanga.
The evolution from Blog (purely about you, for you, with occasional comments) to Xanga (mostly about you, for you, but links you to friends and comments and other xangas) to Facebook (a fucking orgy of 'friends' and connections and while now highly customizable, is not something I will be able to look back at in 10 years and remember anything worth remembering at all.) So to me, it's not worth it.
Warning: If you absolutely Loooove facebook and/or get offended easily, 1) stop reading 2)you must not know me well enough, so stop reading.
I hate Facebook. Ok, I don't hate it, but I don't like what it's become and am rarely motivated to participate. So FYI, I have NOT disappeared off the face off the earth. I just left Facebook, ok? Geez. Facebook is not the world. Get a grip, people.
Sure, I love posting pictures, and commenting on them - but that's personal. Pictures are memories and blogs are memories and both you can keep and cherish later on. But a 5 second "Happy birthday" message? Eh. It's really nice, but not really worth it. Do you really notice or keep track of who says 'Happy Birthday' to you on facebook? Do you even remember the so called 'sentiment' 5 minutes later after your "LOOK! I'm so POPular!!" glow fades?
Not to burst your bubble, but the people who always say Happy Birthday to all 495 friends does NOT mean they think of you the most, but that they're on Facebook the most. It doesn't mean they're not nice or thoughtful wonderul people, either, but it doesn't necessarily mean they love you, ok?
Sure, you can argue "geez well at least I make the effort". Well BULLY for you. I'm just saying whether you do or don't doesn't amount to much either way, so I quit doing it.
I'm alost old fashioned. I don't like how messy Facebook profiles are nowadays. Who the hell can keep up? Talk about sensory overload. Gifts and music and drawings, Oh mY!
I like that you can always contact someone from middle school if you wanted; that's a nice feeling - to know that when you want to catch up, you just find them of Facebook. That's cool. Your favorite movies? I get it. Favorite quotes? Interesting.
But I don't need to know your 10 political affiliations or your secret fetishes or whether you're currently single or are totally up for any nooky you can get. If I was your friend, I'd know that shit. No one else needs to know. TMI! TMI!
And the whole stupid phenomenon of "OMG she took down 'in a relationship' from her profile!! Did they break up? OMG!" What, the world doesn't gossip enough already? If you're breaking up with your 'true love', you want people who don't even really give a crap about you Facebook messaging you to ask you what's going on?? Seriously, does your ego REALLY need the massage?
Ok. Sorry I don't know why I'm hating on Facebook. It has a lot of merits. It's just too busy and modern for this old lady to handle. Maybe I'm old and now I just want to retreat from the world where everyone has 5 million friends and revert back to my old elitist hierarchy of Brahmins and Untouchables.
You know which one you are.
The evolution from Blog (purely about you, for you, with occasional comments) to Xanga (mostly about you, for you, but links you to friends and comments and other xangas) to Facebook (a fucking orgy of 'friends' and connections and while now highly customizable, is not something I will be able to look back at in 10 years and remember anything worth remembering at all.) So to me, it's not worth it.
Warning: If you absolutely Loooove facebook and/or get offended easily, 1) stop reading 2)you must not know me well enough, so stop reading.
I hate Facebook. Ok, I don't hate it, but I don't like what it's become and am rarely motivated to participate. So FYI, I have NOT disappeared off the face off the earth. I just left Facebook, ok? Geez. Facebook is not the world. Get a grip, people.
Sure, I love posting pictures, and commenting on them - but that's personal. Pictures are memories and blogs are memories and both you can keep and cherish later on. But a 5 second "Happy birthday" message? Eh. It's really nice, but not really worth it. Do you really notice or keep track of who says 'Happy Birthday' to you on facebook? Do you even remember the so called 'sentiment' 5 minutes later after your "LOOK! I'm so POPular!!" glow fades?
Not to burst your bubble, but the people who always say Happy Birthday to all 495 friends does NOT mean they think of you the most, but that they're on Facebook the most. It doesn't mean they're not nice or thoughtful wonderul people, either, but it doesn't necessarily mean they love you, ok?
Sure, you can argue "geez well at least I make the effort". Well BULLY for you. I'm just saying whether you do or don't doesn't amount to much either way, so I quit doing it.
I'm alost old fashioned. I don't like how messy Facebook profiles are nowadays. Who the hell can keep up? Talk about sensory overload. Gifts and music and drawings, Oh mY!
I like that you can always contact someone from middle school if you wanted; that's a nice feeling - to know that when you want to catch up, you just find them of Facebook. That's cool. Your favorite movies? I get it. Favorite quotes? Interesting.
But I don't need to know your 10 political affiliations or your secret fetishes or whether you're currently single or are totally up for any nooky you can get. If I was your friend, I'd know that shit. No one else needs to know. TMI! TMI!
And the whole stupid phenomenon of "OMG she took down 'in a relationship' from her profile!! Did they break up? OMG!" What, the world doesn't gossip enough already? If you're breaking up with your 'true love', you want people who don't even really give a crap about you Facebook messaging you to ask you what's going on?? Seriously, does your ego REALLY need the massage?
Ok. Sorry I don't know why I'm hating on Facebook. It has a lot of merits. It's just too busy and modern for this old lady to handle. Maybe I'm old and now I just want to retreat from the world where everyone has 5 million friends and revert back to my old elitist hierarchy of Brahmins and Untouchables.
You know which one you are.
posted by Steph at 8:33 PM
6 Comments:
she's alive! she's alive! glad to know that you are still kicking up there in Seattle. when will you be in town again? and yes blogs are nice...but tiresome to maintain...
lol. is that ok to use abbreviations with you? or is that not cool? NOT. who cares what you think, stephanie chen. you hated on facebook. omg, i love facebook. it's wicked. hahahahhaah! seriously though, the day i decide to write something really long in my facebook profile with the intent to never update my profile for a very long while, i read this post. sweet dreams! -denise
lol. is that ok to use abbreviations with you? or is that not cool? NOT. who cares what you think. you hated on facebook. omg, i love facebook. it's wicked. hahahahhaah! seriously though, the day i decide to write something really long in my facebook profile with the intent to never update my profile for a very long while, i read this post. sweet dreams!
OMG Denise strikes again.
But yeah, if you hate facebook, then you must despise myspace.
I think one of the reasons I quit xanga other than being lazy, getting busy, etc. is because
people stopped reading it. I'll be honest, I wrote mostly for my readers, not a lot for myself. Back in its heyday everyone would post/read/comment constantly. That has now shifted to facebook/myspace. If I post something on xanga and nobody comments, then I'll think that nobody is reading or interested. That then discourages me to further post. The only reason I liked xanga anyway was because I could use music.
People want social interaction and one avenue currently is facebook. I agree that it's just too much with all their applications (myspace is much worse IMO). I don't like fb's notes system, but you can be sure that 9248543 "friends" are going to read it. I don't post my birthday or wish everyone one for the same reason as you. People should understand and not be offended.
On the flip side, people put whatever information out there but you don't have to read it. In the end, facebook's a polished money machine and it's here to stay. Social networking is hanging the way we use the internet and if you want to keep up with the whole web 2.0 evolution, then I think you have to understand facebook.
I read some story where I think some kids got expelled from school because there were pictures of them drinking on their myspace, and some parents found out and showed school
authorities.
Hehe I also remembered someone reading this blog and mispronouncing segue.
A post after my own heart!
I must be a traditionalist in this sense, too, because I hate Facebook for the same reasons you do. I hate how it's utilized - as a measure of popularity rather than as a networking tool. That's why I have no qualms rejecting friend requests from those I don't like at all. I refuse to be added to their list out of less-than-genuine intentions. And I agree -- if people don't remember to wish me a happy birthday, then I'd rather not receive it from them. Likewise, if your birthday is not recorded on my written calendar, which I glance at every day and update every year to reflect new standings, you don't deserve a personal wish from me. There are too many "if I had known their birthday, I wouldn't mind wishing it on Facebook" that I just don't bother with that. Ambiguity has no place in friendships for me.
I think over the years, I just became more and more private. I didn't mind writing about my life for everyone to see in the prime of college, but now, it's become a distraction. Louis is right; the attention has shifted to Facebook, and people love to jump wagons.
As for the relationship status, I've always wanted to play with people's minds and change it randomly. I think, even IF I get married, I would keep it "single" not only because I despise those who think they can judge my status from a profile but because maybe when I'm old and married, I'll still rejoice in my rebellion at considering myself still young, single, and devoid of cares!
wow...suprisingly, blogger isnt blocked at the office here compared to other sites like xanga, facebook, etc...for me, facebook has some applications on there you can play with to kill time every now and then like that tetris game..lol
but i've started to feel like i'm a little too old for it...knowing that my sister uses it alot too...i guess it makes me feel kinda childish..lol
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